"The essence of a role-playing game is that it is a group, cooperative experience."

- Title quote by Gary Gygax

I have always loved playing games, especially role playing games which are the adult version of "playing pretend". Its sad that so many people forget how to play pretend as they get older. Role-playing games can be a safe and fun way to explore new dynamics in your marital relationship.   I created the role playing card game Uxorious years ago hoping that it might be a useful tool for our own developing wife centered marriage.  While Madame loved the cards, and the ideas they provided her, she didn't embrace the structured approach suggested by the game.  That is understandable in hindsight, I am a gamer, and like structure and rules, while Madame is not.

The game Uxorious might be useful to someone, even if only as a model for their own role-playing game.  I wrote an introduction document and a quick start guide that explains the game and the cards.  Both are published under the resource section of this blog. The following is the introductory section of the quick start guide:

The following is a guide to a simple game that couples can use to experiment with a fantasy version of a Wife led marriage.  The goal is to have fun, while increasing the intimacy between the Wife and husband.  A sample first game scenario is also provided in a separate document to help show how you might get started using the game.

The rules of this game are flexible, but care should be taken to explore the basics of all five dimensions (Sexual, Behavioral, Physical, Mental, and Emotional) of the Wife led marriage relationship.  Beyond that caveat, most anything else can be added or removed to suit the couple’s interests and goals.

The game uses cards like the ones pictured here as resources. There are vows, pledges, deeds, punishments, penances, and boons. Those of you familiar with the card game Magic the Gathering will recognize the card format I used for this game.  

Most of the images used on these cards were found on the internet. Source credit was listed on the card if known.  If anyone owns the rights to any of these images, please let me know and I will update the attribution or remove the image at your request.

The cards have advanced elements like subtypes and intensity that are not necessary to using the cards in basic play.  These features are explained fully in the quick start guide.

Making the hundreds of cards available was great fun, and I encourage you to try creating your own cards.  Even without using the game rules, the cards can be very useful.  Your wife could pick out all the boon cards that display the rewards she would consider allowing, forming a custom boon deck.  If your lucky she might let you draw one card that will determine the form of your sexual reward. Or maybe she silently hands you a penance card when she is unhappy with your behavior.  The possibilities are endless.

On a final note, the resource documents including the cards are all copyrighted under this Creative Commons 3.0 license:

You can remix, share and do pretty anything you like with this material except make money off of it.  I hope if you find this useful in some way, you will share your creation or ideas with the rest of us.  Enjoy.

~uxorious mate